What are foreplay moves women actually love?

Answer by Marni Kinrys Founder, The Wing Girl Method · 5 min read

Marni's answer

I'm Marni Kinrys, founder of The Wing Girl Method. Real foreplay isn't just kissing and moving to the destination. There are specific moves women rave about to their friends — and most men don't do any of them.

Let me tell you the six moves that get women talking.

1. Making out on the couch, high school style

Remember making out for HOURS as a teenager? On a couch. Not because you were going to have sex. Just because making out was hot.

Adult men skip this entirely. Everything becomes a rush to the bedroom. Which means women miss out on the slow build we actually crave.

Get on the couch. Kiss her. Really kiss her. Don't move it to the bedroom for at least 30 minutes. Just make out. Let it get intense. Let her body ache for more. THEN move it.

This alone will change everything for her. Because none of the men she's dated do this anymore.

2. Secret touching in public

Risky, light touching in inappropriate places when sex CANNOT happen right now. This is what women rave to their friends about.

Example: Hand up her top during a movie. Hand down the back of her jeans while at dinner with friends. A finger tracing her thigh under the table.

The reason this works — it builds tension without release. She's turned on and can't do anything about it. By the time you're actually alone together, she's already at 100.

This move is bold. Requires trust. But once you're in a relationship or steadily dating, it's magic.

3. Long, deep, lingering kisses that don't lead anywhere

A kiss that goes on for FIVE MINUTES without escalating. That savors her. That doesn't reach for her clothes or her body.

Most men use kissing as a stepping stone to more. Women love a man who kisses like the kiss is the point.

It shows her you're not in a rush. That you're actually enjoying HER. That your hands don't have somewhere else to be.

4. The slow rubdown

A full-body sensual massage. Not the 'let me rub you and then have sex' kind. The 'let me actually work out the tension in your back' kind.

Bonus if you use oil. Bonus if you actually know what you're doing. Bonus if you don't try to escalate midway through.

Give her the massage and then STOP. Let her fall asleep. Let her feel taken care of. Then next time — she's going to be the one initiating.

5. Teasing until she can't take it

Get close to where she wants you and stop. Kiss right next to it. Have your hand there but don't move. Make her want it MORE before you give it.

This builds arousal exponentially. When you finally give her what she wants, her body detonates.

Rushing is amateur. Teasing is expert.

6. Verbal seduction

Text her earlier in the day about what you're going to do to her later. Or whisper in her ear at dinner about what you have planned. Or describe what you want to do while you're touching her.

Women's arousal lives largely in our brains. When you engage her brain, her body follows. Words are one of the most powerful tools you have. Most men never use them.

This isn't about being crude. It's about being present and specific. 'I'm going to spend an hour on you tonight' hits differently than a random 'thinking of you' text.

Common mistakes men make

• Rushing to the bedroom instead of making out for an hour
• Every touch being a stepping stone to sex
• Never doing anything that isn't goal-directed
• Silent sex with no verbal seduction
• Rushing to give her what she wants instead of teasing

What to do instead

• Make out on the couch for 30+ minutes before moving anywhere.
• Secret public touching once you're in a relationship.
• Long kisses that don't escalate — savor her.
• Give a real massage without expecting sex after.
• Verbal seduction — text her, whisper to her, describe what you'll do.

Marni's take

Here's the whole foreplay game. It's not about technique or being adventurous or trying new positions. It's about not rushing. Taking your time. Doing things that AREN'T a stepping stone to sex. When you master that — when you become a man who can kiss for an hour without rushing — you become the best lover she's ever had. Not because of what you know. Because of what you're WILLING to do. Patience is the whole game.

Key takeaways

• 6 moves: couch makeouts, secret public touch, lingering kisses, real massage, teasing, verbal seduction.
• None require special skill. All require PATIENCE.
• Do things that AREN'T stepping stones to sex.
• Master patience. Master foreplay. Master everything.