What are the best opening lines to use on women?

Answer by Marni Kinrys Founder, The Wing Girl Method · 4 min read

Marni's answer

I'm Marni Kinrys, founder of The Wing Girl Method. Every guy wants the magic line. I'm gonna tell you a secret — the line barely matters. What matters is HOW you approach.

But since you asked, let me give you what actually works. And what will make her want to bolt.

The two openers that KILL your chances

1. OPINION OPENERS. 'Do you think blondes have more fun?' 'Do you like this painting?' 'Should I text her back?' Every douchebag and pickup artist wannabe uses these. And women are SICK of being asked our opinion by strangers at bars.

2. FORMAL INTRODUCTIONS. 'Hi, my name is Dave, and I saw you across the room, and I just had to come over and introduce myself.' Yuck. This screams 'I'm approaching you.' Which makes it awkward. Which makes her want to leave.

The two openers that actually WORK

1. THE OBSERVATION METHOD. Say what you're actually thinking. Don't ask her opinion — share yours. 'This painting is awesome.' 'These snacks are insulting.' 'Your dog is way too well-behaved for a Tuesday.' You pull her INTO your world instead of trying to jump into hers.

2. SKIP THE FORMALITIES. Talk to her as if you already know her. Start your conversation as if you're 10 seconds into it. No 'Hi.' No 'My name is.' Just… speak. 'You HAVE to try the crab dip, it's dangerous.' She'll respond because you're treating her like a person, not a target.

Why the HOW matters more than the WHAT

If four different men approached me with the exact same 'magic line,' I'd have four different reactions. One I'd want to punch. Another I'd want to hug. Another I'd want to rip his clothes off. Another I'd want to run from.

Same words. Totally different reactions.

That's why every 'line' is bullshit. The line doesn't create attraction. The ENERGY behind the line does. Which means you can literally say 'banana banana banana' and get her giggling if your energy is right.

James and the line experiment

James, 34, single, Denver. Was OBSESSED with finding the right opening line. Would rehearse them in the mirror. Would freeze at bars trying to remember them.

I told him — James, stop learning lines. Start noticing what's actually around you. Whatever you'd say to a buddy in the situation — say that to her.

First test: he saw a woman scowling at her phone. He walked over and said, 'That phone did something to piss you off.' She laughed. Started talking. Got her number in 5 minutes.

No rehearsal. No line. Just an observation. Because he wasn't performing — he was just being present.

That's the whole game. The best 'line' is the one that's real.

Common mistakes men make

• Using opinion openers ('Do you like this painting?')
• Formal introductions ('Hi my name is Dave')
• Complimenting her looks in the first sentence
• Rehearsing lines and losing your presence
• Trying to be smooth instead of being real

What to do instead

• Use the Observation Method — share what you're thinking, don't ask her opinion.
• Skip formalities. Start 10 seconds into the conversation.
• Notice the actual environment. Comment on that.
• Be direct: 'I saw you across the room and figured I'd say hi' works.
• Focus on energy, not words. The HOW matters way more than the WHAT.

Marni's take

Look — every 'magic line' article out there is missing the point. The line doesn't matter. YOU matter. Your energy. Your presence. Your confidence. If those are right, you could say 'the sky is blue' and she'd want to keep talking. If those are wrong, the perfect line will still crash. Stop hunting for lines. Start being someone worth talking to. Right?

Key takeaways

• Opinion openers and formal intros — dead on arrival.
• Observation Method + skip formalities = works.
• The HOW matters way more than the WHAT.
• Be present. Comment on what's real. That's the whole game.