Escalating an interaction with a woman is terrifying these days. You don’t want to come off as creepy or worse, be accused of sexual assault, which is why so many men struggle with intent. READ THIS to discover where you’re going wrong!
Recently I asked all of my readers what their biggest challenges with women are. And one of the most common answers was about showing intent and taking things to the next level. I totally get why this is a big area of concern for guys.
I mean, even at the best of times it can feel a little scary when it comes time to make your move and escalate. But it seems to be even more of an issue these days…
Because a lot of guys are terrified of showing any kind of sexual interest in a woman because of the whole #MeToo stuff.
However, you need to keep this in mind:
It’s not that women aren’t interested in sex. Or that we don’t want guys to show intent and make a move. It’s that we don’t want guys trying to be sexual with us unless we’ve shown any interest first.
So if you’ve been talking to us and we’re doing our best to ignore you, it’s probably not a good idea to try and stick your tongue down our throat. That’s gonna get you labelled as creepy. But if we’ve been engaging with you, laughing, flirting, reciprocating your touch, and other positive signs… it’s basically a green light that you can go in for the kiss.
And if you DON’T…
Then you risk missing out on that window of opportunity, and you never know if it’ll be back. So when you feel like it’s the right time, don’t be afraid to go for it!
Of course, there are other ways to show intent other than going for the kiss.
You can be more direct when talking to a woman… Even with your approach. It’s totally okay to say something like, “Excuse me, I know this is a little forward… but I think you’re gorgeous and I was curious to find out who you are. I’m (your name).”
However, you can also open in a more indirect or situational style. And then if the conversation is going well, you can start showing more intent.
It could be with your words, your attention, your touch, your body language… even just the way you look at her can convey all the intent needed to let her know what you’re feeling.
The key is that you’re not afraid to let her know you’re interested in her.
This is where ‘nice guys’ often fail.
They think it’s impolite or rude to show any sexual interest in a woman… so the result is we never see them in a sexual way. If you show zero sexuality, don’t be surprised when women show zero sexual interest in return.
And hands down, the easiest way to start showing more intent and sexuality with women is with good banter. It’s actually more low risk than just being direct, because everything you’re saying is wrapped in humor.
That means a woman can’t really reject you or say she’s not interested, because you’re just bantering with her. But it still frames you as a confident man who isn’t afraid to go for what he wants, which is obviously attractive to us.
When you really understand how to banter in the way you’ll discover here…
You’ll never again have to worry about how to show intent, or getting stuck in the friend zone.
That’s because the chemistry and sexual tension between you and a woman will be so electric, it’ll feel obvious to her something is bound to happen.
So click here to become a banter badass, and watch how women start responding to you.
The last female friend you’ll ever need,
Marni