Okay I’ll be the first to admit… Women are often guilty of lying to a guy. Women might’ve lied to you in the past. They might lie to you again in the future. And it’s hard to tell when it’s happening.
So I wanna talk about the 6 most common lies you could hear from a woman and what it actually means. I know I’ve said these things in the past. And I assure you that other women have too.
So I want to share it with you today so you can spot these lies if your hear them… and know exactly what to do next… Instead of falling for it, making the wrong move or wasting your time. With that said, let’s dive in.
Here are the 6 common lies women tell men and what it actually means.
Lie #1: Sorry, I’m Busy Right Now…
…When you keep asking her to meet up. Look, when a woman likes a guy, she’ll make herself available to him.
If you repeatedly get excuses from her when asking to meet up… It just means that she’s just not that into you.
Even if you were having a nice conversation with her over text… Or you had a great conversation in person and got her number…
If she keeps dodging dates and makes it impossible for you to see her again, then there was no real interest to begin with. Maybe she just enjoyed the attention. Maybe she needed a distraction from something in her life or maybe there was a tiny bit of interest that has since faded away.
Whatever the case, take the hint and walk away. Don’t keep texting her and play the role of her text buddy. Don’t call and don’t fight for her attention.
If you’ve tried to get her out on a date twice and she’s been giving excuses, walk away. On the off chance that she’s actually interested and was genuinely busy with something, she’ll reach out to you.
But that’s rare. And you’re much better off meeting and focusing on other women.
Lie #2: I’m Not Looking to Date Right Now
This could also be…
- I’m not looking for anything romantic…
- I’m not looking for a relationship…
- I’m just focused on my career right now…
Whatever the variation, nine times out of ten, it simply means she doesn’t want to date you right now. Because here’s the thing.
When a woman feels a strong sexual spark with a guy, she’ll want to take steps forward in a romantic direction.
In other words, like I said before, she’ll make herself available to you. Now I should point out that sometimes a woman can be in a place in her life where she doesn’t want to date.
Maybe she’s recently come out of a relationship. Maybe she’s working on something important in her career and all her time is spent on it. But this is much less likely.
When a woman tells you she’s not looking to date, the vast majority of the time it’s because she doesn’t feel that spark with you. But she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings so she’s framing it in a more polite and subtle way.
Just like the last one, the best course of action here is to take the hint and move on.
Remember— If you keep chasing women who are clearly not interested… you’re stopping yourself from meeting much better women who will be interested in you.
In other words, you’re getting in your own way towards success and abundance with women. So be aware if you start obsessing over that one girl.
Lie #3: You’re Amazing, But…
- But we’re better off as friends.
- But I don’t see you that way.
- But I don’t wanna ruin our friendship.
Whatever follows that statement chalks up to the same message… You’re just a friend to me. I don’t see you in a sexual way.
Now this is more straightforward than the others we’ve discussed so far. But a lot of guys get false hope when a woman says this.
Their mind goes… She said I’m amazing or I’m lovely, so she definitely likes me on some level. I bet that if I keep trying I’ll change her mind.
No you won’t. The “you’re amazing” part is just a way for her to soften the blow. She cares about you as a person and doesn’t want to be rude to you.
But make no mistake about it… there’s no attraction there.
Lie #4: I Never Do This
Let’s say you guys are hooking up on a first date… Or you just met her at a bar or something and she’s coming home with you…Or maybe you just met her at a coffee shop and ended up going on a date then and there…
A woman might say to you some version of…
- “I never do this.”
- “I’ve never done this before.”
And most of the time this is a lie. Yes, in some cases it could be the first time for her… But it’s far more likely that she has done this before.
Maybe not too often but once or twice… And she’s scared to admit it because she didn’t like that she did it in the past and it bit her in the butt.
OR she’s afraid of judgement or that you’ll see her in a way she doesn’t want you to see her. Label her as something she doesn’t want to be.
If she says this to you, it means she definitely likes you and feels very attracted to you. And that means your judgment holds a lot of value in her eyes.
She doesn’t want to look too easy or slutty. She wants to seem like a good, respectable woman. She wants to gain and maintain your approval.
And she certainly doesn’t want to send signals that you can do this and then never contact her again. That to me is the biggest fear. That she’s disposable and not worthy of more because she does this.
So if she says this to you, take it as a sign of high interest and that she doesn’t want to be hurt and played. So proceed with caution and decide whether or not you really want to do what you are about to do.
Lie #5: We’re Not Having Sex Tonight
This is along the same lines as the last one. Whether it’s on a date or when you’re first meeting and flirting around with a woman…
If a woman tells you “we’re not having sex tonight”… It typically means that she’s feeling VERY attracted to you and definitely wants to sleep with you that night.
But at the same time part of her is trying to resist these urges and protect herself and her image all at the same time. She doesn’t want to be seen as easy and disposable. She wants to behave herself and put on a good girl front and have you take her seriously.
The best way to deal with this is to just tease her or make a joke about it. Something like…
- “Wow… you’re already thinking about sex? You’re making me feel cheap.”
- “Don’t worry, I’m saving myself for marriage…” with a little smirk on your face.
Just don’t push her into anything. Don’t try to escalate too quickly. Just keep talking, flirting and slowly moving things towards a more private location. With a slow and relaxed escalation, nine times out of ten you’ll end up sleeping with her that same night.
Just dont be a dick afterwards or else it will make it harder for the next guy.
Lie #6: I Just Want a Nice Guy
This is probably the most common female lie there is I suppose.
- I want a nice, caring, sweet guy who treats me like a princess.
- I just want a guy who makes me laugh.
- I want a proper gentleman.
If you’ve been following me for a while, you know this is BS. But here’s what you don’t understand.
Women actually don’t think they’re lying when they say this stuff. When she says she wants a nice guy, she actually means it.
I mean, logically speaking, why wouldn’t I or any woman want the guy we’re with to be nice to us or sweet or caring?
But there is a small problem. Attraction is NOT a logical decision. Attraction is an emotional reaction.
That’s why a woman can say she wants a nice guy… She can say she wants a guy with six pack abs who makes six figures and is over six feet tall…
She can say she wants a guy who likes the same things as her… But at the end of the day, if you make her feel attracted when you talk to her…
If you trigger that sexual spark inside of her that turns her on… Suddenly, nothing else matters. Once she gets that little tingle between her legs when she’s talking to you… Her type and her preferences go out the window.
Like I said, attraction is not a logical decision. Attraction is purely emotional. It’s based on how she’s feeling in the present moment. How you’re MAKING her feel in the moment. That’s it.
She can have a list of 100 different things she wants in a guy. But in the end… how YOU make her feel will be the deciding factor. Always.
The truth is that when women tell you they want a nice guy what they are really saying is that she wants the man she IS attracted to and with to be nice to her. But it’s not what attracts her.
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