So many guys are afraid of looking creepy to a woman. In fact, most of the guys I coach say that they don’t approach women because they’re scared of being labelled as a creep. Maybe you relate to that. Maybe you don’t. But if you do… then this post is for you.
I’ll show you what actually makes a woman think you’re creepy… And how to easily avoid this social mistake anytime you see a woman you want to meet.
It doesn’t matter if it’s at a bar, a social event, coffee shop, grocery store, the gym or anywhere else on earth…
If you pay attention and do exactly what I say here, you’ll never come across as a creep to the women you meet. So that said, let’s dive in.
What Makes A Woman Find A Man Creepy
So… what makes a woman find a man creepy? I’m NOT gonna talk about things like use of inappropriate language and overtly sexual behavior.
Meaning — if you go up to a woman and say things like… “Nice legs…” Or — “You’ve got such a great ass…” Or You’re very touchy and grabby with her from the start… before she’s attracted and comfortable with you… You’re obviously gonna creep her out and probably get slapped or shouted at.
I’m sure you’re smarter than that. And you know better than to do that. So what I wanna talk about here is a social mistake that’s far more subtle… But extremely common in men.
A mistake that even the most well-meaning, intelligent guys make when they see a woman they really like. Let me paint you a little picture to illustrate.
Let’s say you see this gorgeous woman in front of you. And you really wanna go talk to her. If you’re like most guys, chances are you’re gonna feel nervous on the inside. And that’s normal.
However — if you’re extremely nervous, one of two things might happen. The first scenario is that you just hover around this girl… Trying to figure out what to say to her… But you just can’t think of anything. You’re in her proximity.
You might be sneaking glances at her. She might’ve even looked back at you once or twice. But you simply can’t find the words to start a conversation.
The second scenario is that you actually do go talk to her. But you’re visibly uncomfortable. Your voice is low and shaky. You’re unable to look her in the eyes and you might be fidgeting and unable to stand still. And there’s this awkward energy behind everything you say.
Now the common thread tying these two scenarios together is this… In both of these cases… a woman will instantly flag you as creepy. Why? Because of something called emotional contagion.
You see, a long time ago, scientists found that humans have a tendency to unconsciously mimic the emotions and emotional reactions of other people around us. Or in simpler words, emotions can be contagious.
So for example… When you’re around a person who’s laughing out loud… You might start laughing or smiling when you notice them.
When you see someone who’s yawning, you feel the urge to yawn. When you see someone who’s extremely sad or even on the verge of tears, you might start to feel sad yourself. This is all because of the contagious nature of our emotions. Especially the more intense or impulsive ones.
Now the same thing applies when you’re around women. When you’re very nervous and hesitant around a woman or when you’re in a strong state of discomfort… That state of discomfort gets passed onto her unconsciously… And she starts to feel uncomfortable in your presence.
She can feel it in her gut that something is just off with you. And that’s when you get labelled as strange, weird, awkward or creepy.
So the bottom line is… Your discomfort and nervousness around her is what makes her feel uncomfortable around you. Which means… If you want to avoid this and want to avoid making her uncomfortable with you… You need to find a way to relax yourself around her.
You need to reduce your anxiety and stop yourself from freaking out on the inside. Now there are many ways to do that. But I want to give you a simple tool today that I’ve shared with hundreds of thousands of guys in the past. And I’ve personally used myself to lower my anxiety when speaking to big audiences.
If you do this one thing exactly as I explain, you’ll start to radiate a more comfortable, relaxed vibe when approaching and speaking to women. And that will put her at ease and make her feel okay talking to you.
The Power of “Announcing The Elephant”
So. What is this magical tool? I like to call it Announcing The Elephant. Announcing the elephant means to call attention to the elephant in the room…
It’s to call out the thing that you’re trying to hide, cover up or resist that’s making you so anxious and causing discomfort.
So for example… If you’re lurking around a woman, sneaking glances at her but just can’t think of anything to say… The elephant in the room is that you wanna talk to her but you don’t know what to say.
In this case… announcing the elephant would look something like this… You force yourself to walk up to her, you look at her with a smile on your face and tell her something like…
“Hey, I saw you from over there and you’re really attractive, but my mind just went blank and I didn’t know what to say to you.”
If you want to make it a little funny, you could add something like…
“I’m Micheal by the way. And I guess I’m here to embarrass myself…”
The moment you do that… two things are gonna happen. First and foremost, you’ll feel like a giant weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
You’ll feel that sigh of relief. You’ll feel much more at ease. But secondly, calling out the elephant like that… and even going ahead and making fun of it… only makes people like you more.
Why? Because it’s so honest and genuine. And all of us like to see that in a person. It comes across as endearing and charming. And it almost builds this immediate sense of trust.
I remember when I used to do this on stage in front of large audiences. These were seminars and workshops that hundreds of guys would attend… All expecting me to solve all their issues with women on the spot and have all the answers to their questions.
When I first started doing these things, I was a nervous wreck. But instead of trying to hide that from the guys… I’d call it out and put it in the open. I’d say something like this…
“God, I'm so nervous. There are so many of you and I want to give you everything you need to be successful with women, but I feel pressure right now.”
And just like that I’d announce the elephant. I’d call out the fact that I’m nervous. And the moment I did that I could feel the weight come off my shoulders. I’d instantly feel more relaxed.
I wasn’t trying to cover up my anxiety… I wasn’t trying to pretend but I just called it out. Put it out there. And it worked every single time. It made me so much more comfortable.
And the guys in the audience would almost always smile. And find this to be an endearing moment.
Best part is… You could do this anytime. If you’re in conversation with a woman and you feel nervous… Instead of hiding it just put it out in the open. Look her in the eyes, smile and say something like…
“Wow, you’re making me nervous right now, you’re so gorgeous.”
Trust me, that line is gonna go over better than any smooth pickup like you ever learn.
If you’re on a date and you’re nervous to go for a kiss…Instead of hiding it and overthinking and hesitating to pull the trigger… Announce it to her. Say something like…
“You’ve no idea how much I wanna kiss you right now…”
If you want to be more playful with it, you could say…
“Hey, what are you doing to me? I can’t stop thinking about kissing you right now…”
Remember— The more you resist a feeling like anxiety or nervousness, the more it persists. And if it persists… women will mirror it unconsciously, and start feeling uncomfortable and anxious around you.
Announcing the elephant is the fastest way to dissolve these feelings. And put yourself and her at ease. I promise you that the moment you start using it, you’ll see women react more positively to you. And feel comfortable engaging with you.
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