If a woman you like suddenly pulls away after showing a lot of interest, there’s ONE thing you should never do as a man… One mistake that will chase her away forever.
I’ll show you what that mistake is and why it’s kills her interest in you for good. But most importantly, I’ll show you the best way you can still pursue this woman and actually turn things around with her.
So if you want a second chance with that one special lady who seems to be slipping away right now, pay attention and read till the end.
So… what’s this big mistake that you need to avoid when a woman pulls away? Well, let me explain with a quick story.
Real Life Example: Arun’s Story
This happened to my client Arun just weeks before we started working together. Arun went on a few dates with this amazing woman he had met at a friend’s party.
The conversations were great from the start. The chemistry was there. And he really thought there was something special here. But then after the second date, Arun noticed a strange shift in this woman’s behavior.
Her replies over text started to slow down for some reason. She didn’t initiate conversations like before. And when Arun asked her out on a third date, she brushed him off with some vague excuse about a busy weekend. Arun was upset and frustrated.
What went wrong? He couldn’t stop thinking about it for the next couple of days. He replayed past conversations in his head. He went through their chats over texts, trying to dissect, analyse and make more sense of it.
He was basically obsessing over her, thinking about what went wrong, and eagerly waiting for her to reach out again. But it didn’t happen. And it was driving him crazy.
He wanted this woman. He was really into her and just wanted things to go back to normal. So in a moment of panic and desperation… Arun decides to do the following.
He decides to send this woman an anxious, LONG text asking her what went wrong, why she’s acting so strange, and if it was something he said or did that rubbed her the wrong way.
Then — he followed up with another text telling her how much he liked her and that he’d really love to see her again. This was a BAD move.
And something most men are guilty of when a woman pulls back or goes cold. Why is it such a bad move? Well, here’s the thing.
Why Women Test Confident Men
When a woman pulls away after showing a lot of interest, or even going on a few dates with you… 9 out of 10 times it’s because her interest is fading and she’s just not sure about you. It’s not feeling as exciting to her anymore.
Which is actually what naturally happens in most dating situations but a lot of women expect that it won’t so they start to question “is this guy really that great?? Am I that into him??”
She’s hoping that the guy will do something to show her that she’s being silly and he’s really someone worth investing in. A little bit of a test I guess. And this is when it is super critical to not become super needy and icky and push her away.
And that is what so many guys do. They panic during this window of time and fall prey to their insecurities and become super needy or even worse, angry. And these actions just solidify to the woman that she was right in her thoughts and she decides to move on.
Now I know some guys will hear this and go… “Well, if she’s gonna play games like this to test me, screw her.”
And I understand the sentiment. However the unfortunate truth is women will always test you if they see value in you. It’s just in our nature.
If you’re a confident guy and she’s attracted to you, she’ll test you. She’ll test to see if you’re the real deal or just putting on a front.
If you’re too good to be true. It’s a biological mechanism that’s built into us women…. to help us choose the right partner. And there’s no way around it.
So let’s talk about how to deal with it instead. What’s the best response when a woman pulls away or goes cold?
If you look online, many dating experts and male pick up gurus will tell you to ignore this woman. Match her coldness. Let her come back to you. But there's a wrong way and a right way to do this.
The wrong way is: You don’t reach out to her. You wait for her to come to you.
But the minute she does reach out, you immediately go: “Hey, so do you want to hang out?”
At that moment, she sees that you were exactly who she feared you were and is over it and you even faster than before.
So what’s a better way to do this? What’s the right way to match her coldness? Well, here’s how it works.
If you’re not texting her, and then she does reach out to you, don’t immediately ask her to hang out. Hang up the phone with her or end the text conversation without the invite to hang out.
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that this might be your last conversation with her. Instead, trust that if you play things slower, her interest in you is going to last longer.
Fight the urge to say, “Hey, we should get together,” and let it take longer for her to win you over again.
Let your cold behavior slowly fade away as she reaches out to you more, and puts in the effort to maintain a connection. This is essential if you want to increase her desire and respect for you…
Without which you’ll lose her anyway. That said, now let’s talk about another possible scenario.
What If She Doesn’t Reach Out at All?
What if you wait for a few days but she doesn’t reach out? What do you do now? Well, you’ve got two options. The first option is to ignore her and move on.
There are lots of attractive women out there that you can meet. You don’t have to waste your time and energy on this one woman.
However — if she was truly special to you and want one more try before you walk away, then here’s what you can do. And this is your second option.
You could still pursue her in a non-needy way. I call this the “almost no contact” strategy.
Ignore her most of the time, go focus on other women, but don’t disappear from her life completely. Pop up on her radar and see how she responds.
So let’s say you’ve gone full no contact on her for a week and she hasn’t reached out yet. Text her something fun and light hearted.
Like for example… “If you’ve been kidnapped by aliens, let me know. I’ll come save you in like 4 or 5 business days.”
Or — “Look at us. Quite chatty, aren’t we?”
Or – “Just read on the news about all these cute 30 something women getting eaten by alligators and wanted to be sure you weren’t one of them…”
Cheesy but the perfect cheesy. And see what happens within a day or two.
If she doesn’t say anything, well then she’s probably gone and there’s no other choice but to move on.
But if she does, don’t start texting her too much. Or even reply to her text immediately.
Remember— playing it slow is the way to raise her interest level. Take your time. Write something back. Then ignore her again.
Let a few days go, then respond to what she said last or start a new conversation altogether. Again, something playful and lighthearted.
Just make her smile. Then withdraw. Give her a hit of positive emotions and pull back.
You mindset should be: One step forward, one step back.
Let her invest more into you. If she does, if she starts reaching out more often, putting more effort into maintaining a connection… then you can finally ask her to meet up again.
Don’t just hand her the opportunity to see you again. Make her wait. Make her work for it.
Only then she’ll value it and have more respect for you. Not only will you pass her test by showing her you’re not a needy guy…
But you’ll actually turn the tables and make her see you as the prize. A prize that she needs to chase after.
And that’s how you deal with a woman pulling away after showing interest. I understand that all of this can sound complicated.
And it can be hard to do if you’re in a scarcity of dating options. If she’s the only woman who’s interested in you, it’s hard to ignore her or not think about her obsessively when she pulls away.
That’s why it’s crucial to have options in your dating life. When you have multiple women to choose from, not just one…
Play It Slow to Raise Her Interest
It’s much easier to play it slow and not become needy when that one special girl pulls away. Now if you wanna see the fastest way I know of to create options, meet more women and get out of scarcity forever…
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