Are you worried about women finding you or your actions creepy? Well you’re not alone. Potentially being creepy is one of the biggest fears and insecurities men have with women.
I will show you how to never be seen as a “creepy guy” and what behaviors to avoid so that you never get labeled as creepy. I surveyed over 8000 women between ages 18-50, and discovered the 7 specific behaviors that all women think are creepy.
Some might be obvious. Others might surprise you. But I suggest that you take note of ALL 7 of these creepy behaviors. And avoid them at all costs.
So here’s the thing about being creepy with women that will really put your mind at ease before I get into the 7 things to avoid.
Men who think they will be seen as creepy will never actually be creepy. Why?
Because it means you are self aware, can read a room and read a woman.
The guys who actually are creepy with women are the guys that never even think “I hope I’m not being creepy”.
Because they don’t have the where with all to even think that. They are unaware and therefore not aware of how they come across to others.
BUT just to be sure to not come across as creepy, here are the 7 most common behaviors that women consider creepy:
Number 1: Staring
You're at a bar, or at the gym, and she catches your eye. She looks gorgeous. And you know you shouldn’t stare, but you just can’t take your eyes off her…
Well, here’s the thing. Checking out an attractive woman is natural and nothing to be ashamed of… But being stared at… makes all of us women very uncomfortable.
In my survey, almost 75% of women mentioned this one as a creepy behavior… Making it the number one on the list.
So how do you avoid staring? Firstly, follow the 2 look rule. It’s normal for an attractive woman to catch you eye.
And it’s also normal for you to glance at her more than once. But draw the line at two glances… MAX. And keep these two looks very brief…
So like… 3 seconds or less… to make sure it don’t look like you’re staring.
Secondly, just approach her. If you're having trouble taking your eyes off a stunning woman nearby…
Rather than creepily continuing to look at her, approach and introduce yourself. This is the most confident, attractive and productive thing you can do.
The main reason why staring is creepy is that the starer's intentions are unknown.
So by introducing yourself in a casual way, you can avoid that problem, and potentially make a new connection.
Number 2: Unwanted Contact On Social Media
Let’s say you meet a cute girl at the gym, your office or at a social gathering. You talk to her briefly. But you guys don’t exchange your contact info.
In this situation, many guys go ahead and find the girl on a social media platform like Instagram, Facebook or even LinkedIn.
This might seem like a normal thing to do in today’s age… And yes, you’re just trying to find a way to talk to her…
Your intentions are good… But women do consider unwarranted social media contact to be creepy.
If you met a woman you like in person, don’t contact her online unless you asked for her one of her socials and she shared it with you.
That’s the simplest way to go about this and not look creepy.
Number 3: Inappropriate Comments
You probably know better than to creepily cat call women on the street… Or make overtly sexual comments to women you don't have an intimate relationship with.
But many guys actually say inappropriate things to women on accident… And end up looking like a creep.
If you want to avoid that fate, be careful when talking about these topics. Firstly, her body.
Compliments or comments about her body like “you have really sexy legs” or even something like “Wow, you’re in amazing shape” could be interpreted as too sexual.
A girl might like those comments from a guy she’s dating, but it's creepy coming from someone she's not as intimate with.
Second, her outfit. Unless she's wearing something genuinely remarkable, comments about her outfit can be creepy.
For example… You probably know that telling a woman you barely know that you like the pants wears to the gym is creepy…
But even a comment like “nice shirt” can be creepy if there's nothing unique about the shirt…
Because she might feel uncomfortable wondering (A) why you're paying attention to her shirt, and (B) if you're actually trying to say something else.
To simply all of this, just remember these two rules. No comments about her body.
And compliment her only when it’s something unique, interesting or remarkable that you noticed about her.
Don’t compliment just to be nice, hoping it will make her like you.
Number 4: Won’t Accept No
You meet an amazing woman at the bar. You start flirting. She’s flirting back. You think it’s definitely ON.
You suggest leaving to have a glass of wine back at your place, and she seems interested, but she said she wanted to stay with her friends at the bar.
You let some time pass. You ask her again. She declines once again. At this point, the best thing you can do is let it go.
Even if a girl is interested in you, being too pushy after she tells you no will kill her interest.
Yes, it's true that women will sometimes send mixed signals.
For example… A girl might say she doesn't want to do more than kiss, but she starts touching you in a way that makes you think otherwise.
But if a girl declines your invitation to escalate things, it’s best to take her word for it.
It might be okay to try one more time, but if she tells you no again or seems uncomfortable, let it go.
If you keep pushing it will either make you look creepy or too desperate.
Number 5: Unwanted Physical Contact
Say you met a cute girl at a party, and you’re sitting next to her, flirting and having a good time. She’s smiling, flirting back, and things seem to be going well.
At this point, you remember that initiating touch is crucial to building chemistry, so even though you just met, you try to go in for a kiss.
Well, 9 times out of 10, this will make you look like a big creep. Because while physical touch is essential to building chemistry…
It’s important to do it in baby steps. And escalate only based on her comfort level.
If you do something too bold, too quick, like going in for a kiss or grabbing her by the waist, or touching her things, it will make her uncomfortable. And end up making you look creepy and perverted.
Number 6: Pressure For Sex
Let’s imagine that she's back at your place, and things are getting hot and heavy on your couch. She tells you she doesn't want to have sex yet, but you’re totally in the mood and can’t get it off your mind…
At this point, it’s tempting to push and persist in hopes of getting some bedroom action… But women find it extremely uncomfortable if a guy is pressuring her to sleep with him.
It’s absolutely okay to be your desire to get it on with her… But if she says no, take her word for it. And don’t complain.
If she's made it clear she wants to wait until you're in an exclusive relationship, or for marriage, or for any other reason… It's creepy to continue asking for it, or complaining about how you don't want to wait.
Incidentally, taking the “no” and respecting her boundaries will actually make her trust you more. Which in most cases will boost her desire to get in the bedroom with you.
Number 7: Being Clingy
Say you met a girl at a house party. She was flirty when you chatted, but then she left and started talking with her friends. You don't want to let this one slip away. So what do you do?
You immediately go up to her friend circle and start trying to get her attention. This… is creepy. But also very common.
Almost 50% of the women I surveyed said they’ve had guys cling onto them, and constantly try to get their attention. And it’s a huge turn off.
In fact, many guys I’ve coached actually struggle with being too clingy or desperate for attention. So I want to give you two of my best tips on how to avoid this.
First tip: Give her space in social settings.
If you meet a woman in a social setting, you don't need to monopolize her attention throughout the entire event to get her number. In fact, it's creepy if you try to.
Chat with her for a few minutes, and when there's a natural break in the conversation, part ways.
If you want to get her number, simply find her before you leave (or keep an eye on the door so you can catch her on her way out), and go talk.
Second tip:
Move on when a woman doesn't make an effort. Let's say you're texting a woman who seems interested.
She always responds to your messages, but she usually has an excuse for why she can't meet up in-person. This may be hard to hear, but this girl is just not into in you.
In dating and life, interest is directly shown through effort. If you keep pursuing her, you risk being clingy, and therefore creepy.
And that concludes our list today. Which means, now you know exactly how to AVOID being a “creepy guy”.
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