Here’s the deal. Women test men. But not for the reasons that you think. It’s not malicious. Or pre meditated or meant to hurt you.
In fact, we women aren’t testing you men hoping you’ll fail. We test to protect ourselves, our bodies and our hearts.
And testing usually comes in the form of saying and doing things so that we can see a man’s emotional strength and confidence. We do this as an unconscious filtering tactic to select the best partner for ourselves.
The problem is, most men don’t even know when they are being tested or fear everything is a test and therefore they fail miserably and lose out on amazing opportunities with women.
As your wing girl, I can’t let you be like that. So I’m gonna show you the 10 most common things women say when testing a man… And the word for word best responses to each of these little tests.
Pay attention and take notes as we go over these one by one. Because believe me, this will completely transform your results with women and change the outcomes of all your interactions with them.
Here are the 10 most common things women say to test you:
Number 1: I bet you say that to all the girls
A woman might say this to you when you first start talking to her… Because to her, you come off as somewhat confident and charismatic. Like a type of guy who’s probably good with girls.
Which means the woman is making this statement to see whether or not you are a player. Someone who will hurt her because you see her as just a number.
So what’s looking for in that moment is a fun response to challenge her comment which blasts that fear from her head.
Unfortunately, most guys don’t get this. So they get threatened by this statement because they don’t wanna seem like a player or pick up artist, or some sleazy guy who’s just trying to hit on her…
Then they become kinda apologetic and start telling her how they don’t say that to all the girls… Or how they rarely approach girls and so on. Huge mistake.
That completely shatters her image of you as a confident guy who’s good with girls. The best way to respond here, and to most of these tests women throw at you, is to say something playful like…
“Actually this is the first time I’ve ever talked to a girl” Or… “Yeah of course. Practice makes perfect.”
And it could even be followed up with something sincere if you are over 30 by saying something like. But with you I actually mean it. Followed by some good eye contact.
Now, another version of this test might be something like this… Assuming you say something funny or clever to a girl in real life when you meet her… Or send her a first text on a dating app after you match with her…
She might reply with… “Is that your best pick up line?”
This one doesn’t necessarily mean she thinks you’re good with girls. But she won’t tell you this unless she finds you somewhat intriguing and attractive…
So you can respond with something like: “No, this is like my third best. I’ll give you my best one if I start to like you more.” Or… “You want me to pick you up when we only just met? I thought you were a good girl.”
Once again, keeping things playful.
Number 2: Buy me a drink
There’s nothing wrong with buying a girl a drink. However, if a girl tells you this when you just met her and have barely talked to her… It’s because she wants to know if you’re like every other guy who’s willing to do anything for her.
The best response here is to reject her request… while keeping still the vibe fun and light hearted.
So you can say something like… “Sure. I’ll buy you a drink if I find you interesting.” Or… “Does that usually work on other guys?”
And then move onto some other topic of conversation. Or even throw a hoop jumper comment at her like this “I’ll buy you a drink but first you have to ask me in an australian accent”
This will show her you’re a man with boundaries… and not another nice guy who’s willing to bend over backwards for her.
Yes, some girls will actually walk away if you don’t buy a drink. And that’s okay. Those women are absolutely not worth your time.
Number 3: Are you hitting on me?
Here’s a little secret. If a woman asks if you’re hitting on her, she knows you’re hitting on her. She simply wants to know if you’ll shy away from it or embrace it like a confident man who knows what he wants.
There’s no need to answer this question literally because she already knows the answer. So you can say something like: “If it’s working, then yes.” Or… “I would answer that question. But I’ve been told girls love a mysterious guy. So who knows.”
Number 4: You look old
When talking to women much younger than you, this is a common thing you will hear. But this is rarely a REAL objection. Once again, she just wants to see if your confidence is shaken by it.
And here’s the thing… If you’re an older guy, she naturally assumes you’re more mature, self assured and grounded.
So if she sees you get all awkward and insecure about you age, you’re instantly going to kill that positive assumption she’s made about you. And push her away.
Best response here is to say something like… “Yeah, I actually fought in the First World War. It was brutal.”
Or even something as simple as… “Indeed, I am.”
And then move on with the conversation. Remember, this is rarely a real objection. She only wants to see if you get insecure about it.
In fact, the same goes for this next one…
Number 5: I only date guys above 6ft
Believe it or not… 9 times out of 10, this one isn’t a real objection either. Yes, some women will actually only date a guy who’s above 6ft.
But believe me, the vast majority of women don’t care about your height… if you’re a confident guy with strong character.
And you don’t get insecure about your height. The way to show her that you’re not insecure… is to take this test as an opportunity to get playful…
And say something like… “Oh great, I also only date guys about 6ft. We have some much in common.” Or… “That’s perfect. I only date girls who date guys above 6ft. Lucky you.”
Now, another version of this height objection you might get from a woman is this… “I don’t date short guys”
Once again, this is nothing to be threatened by. It’s not game over. Just keep your cool. And respond by being playful like… “Oh that’s great, me neither.”
Or… “Date? I haven’t even decided if I like you yet”.
It’s really that simple. Once she sees your confidence is not shaken by her comment about height… She can’t help but gain respect for you and feel sparks of attraction.
Number #6: You’re not my type
Here’s another secret about women. We might think and even say we have a type. But we are all willing to make exceptions for the right guy.
So this “you’re not by type” doesn’t mean much, if anything. Simply keep your cool as always.
And respond with something playful like… “Meh, I’m sure you’ll love me anyway. Just give it time.” Or… “Well, that’s okay. Not everyone has good taste after all”.
Number #7: I don’t give out my number like that
If you ask a woman for her number and she says this, it’s because she’s not completely sold on you yet. This isn’t necessarily a test.
But it’s still an great opportunity for you to showcase confidence and flip her attraction switch.
A lighthearted and fun response to this would be something like: “It’s okay. I don’t mind being your first.” Or… “Don’t worry. You can trust me with your number. I won’t give it to anyone else.”
Number 8: Can we just be friends?
This one is hard to hear from a girl you like. I get it. But once again, a girl will only tell you this when she’s not completely sold on you YET.
And it gives you the opportunity to show confidence and help her feel attracted to you. An easy reply to this is: “We can try that.”
And then simply move on with the conversation like it’s no big deal.
Another tactic you can use here is what I call countering. Here, instead of accepting her offer to be just friends, you propose a counter offer that aligns more with your interest.
Something like… “We can hang out as friends. But I’d like the option to upgrade if we really hit it off.”
This shows her that you’re not some typical nice guy who’ll take whatever she says and back away. You’re standing up for what you want.
And you’re also doing it in a manner that’s not pushy or manipulative. That’s extremely attractive to women. So it makes it very hard to say no to.
Number 9: We’re not having sex tonight
A woman might say this when you’re out on a date with her. Or maybe even at a party or a bar or club type environment, if you meet her there and hit it off.
Now, most guys get all defensive when they hear this. And start explaining that sex wasn’t even on their minds. They are not trying to sleep with her. And so on.
This is a big mistake. We can sense when a guy is sexually interested in us. And when you blatantly lie about your intentions, it turns us off.
You see, you’ve to understand one thing. A woman will say “we’re not having sex tonight” because of one reason only.
It’s not because she doesn’t want to sleep with you. The fact that she’s bringing up sex is proof that she’s thinking about that you may expect her to have sex.
Which means she’s thinking about you and sex. It’s that she doesn’t want you to view her as someone who will just sleep with you because your confident, witty and charming. Like all the other girls she’s imaging fall for that.
Remember girls want to be special. Different than the others. And this testing statement is a way for her to express that to you.
So when you hear this, you can either respond to this with something funny like… “Absolutely. I’m saving myself for marriage anyway.”
Or just be direct and comfort her by saying: “Sure. We don’t have to do anything you’re not comfortable with.”
Either of those options will work like magic. And more often than not, you’ll actually end up in bed together that night.
Number 10: I’ve got a boyfriend
This is the trickiest one of all. Because on one hand, she might be telling the truth. And she actually has a boyfriend.
But on the other hand, she might just say this because she’s not interested in you yet. So the best thing you can do here is stay in the game a little longer to find out.
Say something fun and playful like… “Oh no, how long have you had that problem?” Or… “That’s great. He can make us breakfast in bed.”
If she laughs and starts engaging with you more, you can keep the conversation going.
And then ask her at some point… “Okay so seriously, do you have a boyfriend or not? Don’t worry, I can handle it, I’m a big boy.”
If she doesn’t laugh and engage with you, then assume she’s telling the truth and move on. But in case she was making up the boyfriend thing to turn you down politely…
She’ll be extremely impressed by how well you handled it. And rethink her opinion of you.
That said, we’re at the end of our list of things women say to test you. As you would’ve noticed, the main way to handle these tests is to say something fun and playful… that shows you’re not bothered by them.
And I’ve given you plenty of examples today that you can copy or use as inspiration. But if you’d like proven formulas and frameworks to come up with fun things to say on the fly…
So you can have playful conversations with women with absolute ease… You should check out the Banter Guide.
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