A Scientific Study On Attraction Proves That There IS A Formula To Getting A Woman To Desire You. Read on to learn how you can use this in your dating and sex life.
So I got this awesome email earlier from one of my Wing Girls, Marissa, that I want to share with you.
She told me about an article she came across where scientists proved the most effective way for men to attract women.
Here’s the gist of it:
Women were shown Facebook profiles of random men, who they were told had already seen their profile and rated them.
One group of women were told the men they were viewing had rated them highly. A second group were told the men had rated them average. And the third group of women were told it was unknown how the men had rated them.
Which group of women do you think found the men they were viewing the most attractive?
Turns out the women were the least attracted to the men they believed only liked them an average amount. They were more attracted to the guys who they believed were highly attracted to them.
But the women were most attracted to the guys when they didn’t know one way or the other how the men felt.
Now, this didn’t come as a surprise to me at all.
After teaching guys for over a decade how to create attraction, I know that this kind of uncertainty is effective.
But why are we more into guys when we don’t know if they like us or not?
Because when we have to try to work out how they feel, we spend more time thinking about them. And they seem more mysterious, since we literally don’t know what they think and feel.
It’s kind of like how when people see a movie, they don’t want to know the ending. It’s more riveting and emotionally engaging when you don’t know what’s going to happen next…
Which is why you see so many ‘spoiler alert’ warnings online these days. Everyone knows how annoying it is to find out what happens, as it kills all the suspense.
And it’s similar when it comes to dating.
If we know exactly where things are headed, and there are no surprises, it gets boring. That’s the reason women are so attracted to guys who are unpredictable — it keeps us on our toes, wondering what’s coming next.
Now, you might be wondering how you actually get this balance right. How do you show enough interest, but not overdo it to the point she gets bored?
One of the best ways to do this is to have standards.
And I don’t mean that as some sort of technique that you use, where you give the impression that you have standards.
I mean actually have real standards as to what you want in a woman, and what things would be a deal-breaker.
This is going to come down to your personal preferences and what’s important to you.
For example, some people consider smoking to be a deal-breaker.
For others, it could be how far away the person lives. So if they’re in another city, then they won’t consider dating them.
And of course, there could be certain physical aspects that you do and don’t want in a partner.
When you truly have standards, and reasons for them, you’ll be more selective when talking to women. You won’t come across as eager and like you’re looking to just get with ANY girl.
Now, some people make the mistake of thinking this means you can’t be direct and honest with women.
Nope. It doesn’t mean that at all.
You can still be direct and come from a place of being selective.
To use another analogy, think of going to a car dealership. Of course you’re going to show interest in a car (why else would you be there?), but that doesn’t mean you’re sold. It might capture your attention, but you still need to know more before you buy.
Similarly, just because you think a woman is hot doesn’t necessarily mean you want to date her. You’re now a guy with standards, remember? So what else would you need to know about her to see if she meets those standards?
And I have to point this out, because I see guys get it wrong all the time…
This doesn’t mean you rattle off a series of interview-style questions to see if she meets your standards.
That’s not fun or attractive to us at all!
Instead, you still need to be playful and properly flirt with her, while letting her see that you don’t settle for just anyone.
Because when you can get her hoping that she meets your standards, and that you really do like her — all while she’s laughing and flirting back — that’s when you’ve got her.
Would you like me to show you exactly how to do this? 😉
If so, you need to go and check out the system I have for doing just that.
The last female friend you’ll ever need,
~Marni
