Have you ever found yourself constantly checking your phone… Hoping for a message from that one special woman?
Most guys go through this awful experience at some point. They wait and wait. And the reply never comes. Which makes them feel hopeless and frustrated.
Well, I want to tell you exactly what to do when a girl isn’t texting you back… So you stop dwelling on the fact that she hasn’t responded, take action instead, and hopefully get the conversation going once again.
Let’s dive into it and I will give you 5 suggestions on what to do if she doesn't text you back.
Give Her a Day
Assume that your message was delivered successfully. Unless your phone says otherwise, it’s almost a guarantee that she received it.
- Maybe she just hasn’t seen it yet.
- Maybe she did but she’s busy with work, study, or something else in the real world.
- Maybe she is waiting to respond because it’s not her top priority at the moment.
- Maybe she’s playing coy.
- Or maybe she just became bored of the conversation.
Whatever the reason, texting her again within 24 hours almost never does any good.
When we women talk to a new guy, we are cautious about the situation. We want to make sure you’re not too intense, needy, or overly invested.
So if she didn’t see the message and you ping her again, it feels like you’re desperate for a response.
If she did see the message and is waiting or choosing not to respond, your follow-up often reinforces that she shouldn’t reply. It feels overbearing and like you’ve got nothing better to do.
I’m not saying you must “play it cool” or act aloof. Rather, I want you to put yourself in the shoes of a confident man… who’s got options… and who’s not seeking approval.
He might think, “that sucks” when he doesn’t get a reply… But then he’s going to focus on something else.
He’s going to be productive, hang out with friends, do something fun for himself, and talk to other women. He’s not sitting at home agonizing over the response time of a girl he barely knows.
Don’t Wait More Than 2-3 Days To Text Again
Now, a lot of guys go the opposite of intense messaging and instead distance themselves completely. They decide not to message for multiple days, weeks, or ever again — even if this was the first time she went cold.
One reason guys do this is to avoid appearing needy and desperate. But as I’ve said before, neediness comes down to actual intentions.
If you want to connect with this girl and are “pulling away” to manipulate her approval of you — you’re being needy.
Another reason is that guys feel they put enough in effort and now it’s the girl’s turn to respond. Reasonable thinking. But it doesn’t always play out as you’d hope.
Because some women will reinitiate contact but many more, even ones that are interested, won’t. Because women are much more passive in that early dating, early courtship process.
So if this is just the first time she’s stopped responding, there’s no point in playing the waiting game and potentially missing your window of opportunity. Just ping her again within a few days. And follow the next steps.
Don’t Ask If She Got Your Text
I know you might feel lost when reinitiating with a girl who went quiet. Your natural urge may be to double-check if she received your message or repeat what you said to her.
This rarely works. Think about it… This girl stopped responding after your last message FOR A REASON. Pushing her to reply to that specific idea or checking on her like you’re her dad isn’t exciting.
It also makes it feel like you’re hung up on why she didn’t respond.
Don’t Immediately Ask Her Out Again
You also don’t want to ask her out as your first message back to her. This is especially true if your previous text was about trying to set up plans.
She may have not been comfortable enough or excited enough yet to commit to a date. You pushing again without addressing those feelings will often yield another silent response or no commitment.
It’s better to start with a more casual and engaging message, have a few texts back and forth, and then invite her out when she’s expressing positive emotions.
Because if she went radio silent after your first invitation, you have to make the second one count. Women don’t like telling a guy off twice.
They know you’re probably feeling rejected and frustrated which makes them feel uncomfortable. In turn, they can pull back to avoid confrontation or convince themselves it wasn’t meant to be.
So they go back to ignoring you or tell you sorry, but they’re not interested. Which poses the question… What should you do then? Well, here’s the answer.
Get Positive Emotions Flowing Again
Like I said earlier, women stop responding for many reasons. But it usually comes down to that they’re not excited, invested, or comfortable enough to meet up with you yet.
A lot of guys think the solution is to talk about commonalities and get to know each other on a deeper level. But women don’t want that over text — it’s a horrible means for communication.
She can do that on a date with you. All she really needs is to FEEL that it’s going to be a fun, awesome experience meeting up with you.
If you just start up the conversation with something bland, logical, or devoid of emotion — it’s not likely to go anywhere.
This is why messages like, “Hey, how’ve you been?” or “So how was your weekend?” fall flat. They don’t encourage her to open up and feel something more.
You want her to experience positive emotions such as excitement, curiosity, playfulness, passion, and get her laughing her ass off when she reads your texts.
That’s your best shot at re-engaging her and then getting her out on a date with you.
If you’d like to know exactly how to be playful in your conversations and get her laughing and feeling really good… You should check out my Banter Guide.
The Banter Guide gives you proven techniques and formulas for being funny and playful with women, over text and in person… And it gives you countless word for word examples that you can copy-paste right away.
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