Want women to start seeing you sexually instead of seeing you as a friend or a “nice guy”. I want to see you escape friend zone.
So in today’s post, I’m going to tell you how you can stay out of this zone forever! Whether it’s with a co-worker, classmate, or a girl from your social circle… Or even someone who’s lost interest in you… And now wants to be “just friends”…
I'm gonna give you the 3 best steps you can take to potentially change her mind. And make her see you as a guy she’d want to date. So pay attention and keep reading.
Here are the 3 steps to help you change her mind about you and no longer see you as a friend but instead as a romantic or sexual option:
Step 1: Withdraw Effort and Attention
Look, if a girl sees you as a friend right now, you’re not gonna change that impression overnight. To reset her impression of you, you need time. It’s non-negotiable.
Now, that doesn’t mean you must cut off contact with her completely… But when she sees you as a “friend” and you’re in the friend zone, the more you try to impress, attract, or build a connection with her, the more she will resist.
So the best move you can make immediately is to… Withdraw the effort and attention you’re investing in her. A good rule of thumb is to stop initiating contact with her.
If you’re used to talking to her, texting her, or even hanging out with her, stop making any effort towards it from your end. And if she comes to you to talk to you or texts you or wants to hang out, be kind and respond but don’t give.
Meaning, you can reply to her but don’t add to the conversation by asking questions or sharing information. Simply respond. Again you are not trying to shut her out completely, but minimize the time spent interaction.
The point is to break your current pattern with her so you can reset things. So don’t need to have hour-long conversations with her. Don’t always respond to her texts quickly. Or reply to everything she says. Don’t have to say yes every time she wants to hang out. Or stay too long when you do hang out. Reduce the time, effort, and attention you’re spending on her.
Keep this up for at least 4 to 6 weeks at minimum. This will allow the impression she has of you now… to slowly fade. As a secondary benefit: It will add some variety and mystery into your current dynamic.
If she’s used to getting lots of attention from you… and spending time with her… This will throw her off. And that feeling of uncertainty or confusion… will only help reset your impression in her mind.
Step 2: Amp Up Your Lifestyle
This is an extremely crucial step. And here’s why. All women want a man who’s living a happy and thriving life we can take part in it. Doesn’t matter if she’s 25 or 65…
When it comes to dating and picking a romantic partner… She’s looking for a happy guy, thriving, and happens to be single. So you need to become that guy.
What does that look like? Well, over the next 4 to 6 weeks, your ultimate mission will be to amp up your life. Craft a lifestyle that has you engaged and happy.
Here are some ideas on how to do that:
- Start getting regular exercise and take care of your health.
- Spend more time with friends and socialize more often.
- Pick up a new hobby and immerse yourself in it.
- Try a new activity. Like, take a salsa dancing class. Go on a solo trip over the weekend. Go wine tasting. Do something to break your routine.
- Lastly, maybe double down on your career. Find ways to level up at your job. Or level up your business.
- Once again, the big goal here is to build a life that has you engaged and happy.
This step will make you a man women can’t help but admire. And that girl you like sees you with this new “happy and thriving” energy… Her impression of you will start to shift.
Step 3: The Steady Re-Approach
After 4 to 6 weeks of withdrawing your attention and effort… Crafting a new and improved lifestyle… You can start initiating contact with her once again. But take it slow.
You don’t want things to go back to as it was. Maybe you send her a text out of the blue, asking her opinion about something. Or go up and talk for a bit when you see her in person.
Initiate interactions and give her a chance to talk to you… in little doses. Now, when you do this, there’s a hugely important thing you also need to do. And that’s banter and flirting.
Because if you got yourself into the friend it’s most likely because you were acting friendly with a woman you are attracted to instead of flirting, bantering and being playful with the woman you are attracted to.
Teasing, challenging, and joking around… is the easiest and most risk-free way to build romantic chemistry. And if you’re in the friend zone now, romantic chemistry is something she doesn’t feel for you.
So apart from letting time pass, the current image of you fades out… And building a new, happy, and thriving version of you… that she will admire… You need to add some romantic spark to the mix. A spark that truly makes her wonder, “Is there something more than friendship here?”
So you need to make your little doses of interaction count. Playfully tease her on something. Challenge her. Show off your humorous side. If you in those short interactions, you can make her laugh and smile with your banter… In most cases, if not all, she will begin to feel that romantic spark. Especially if you’ve followed steps 1 and 2 to the T.
Now, if you’re thinking, “But Marni, I’m not a super funny or witty guy. I’m don’t know if I can create good banter with her…”
Don’t worry. I have something you’ll love. It’s called The Banter Guide.
The Banter Guide gives you proven techniques and formulas for being funny and playful with women, over text, and in person… And it gives you countless word-for-word examples that you can copy-paste right away. From conversation starters to teasing tactics to lines to playfully challenge a girl… You get it all inside the Banter Guide.
You will even get the best replies and comebacks to handle a woman’s objections and tests. If you struggle to come up with things to say when talking to women or be seen as interesting and fun, the Banter Guide is for you.
Thousands of my students have used the lines and techniques inside the Banter Guide to date and sleep with gorgeous women. And many have turned things around with women… who previously only saw them as just friends or colleagues. There’s no reason why you can’t do the same. Click here to check it out.