Do you know the one thing that turns a woman on… MORE than anything else? It’s NOT status, money, height, or good looks. In fact, it’s NOT even confidence, sense of humor, intelligence, or a game. Those are all nice.
But the single biggest female turn on is something very specific… that 99% of men are completely unaware of. Once you know this secret, you will be able to attract more women than ever before. You will instantly multiply your dating options and have women craving to be with you. And that’s a guarantee.
So pay attention as I reveal the biggest female turn of all time — and how you can use that to attract the women you desire.
So to explain this major female turn on, I’ll tell you a quick story. A long time ago, I went on a night out with two of my girlfriends and one guy friend who we’ll call James. James had a huge crush on one of my girlfriends — we’ll call her Tanya. And he thought this was the perfect opportunity to win her over.
So while we all interacted with each other, James paid a lot more attention to Tanya. He tried to flirt with her, initiate light touching, get her drinks, compliment her from time to time, and so on. We all knew what was going on, including Tanya, but she didn’t seem very interested in James. And we could all see him get frustrated by that.
Things got bad to worse for James when we got approached by these two guys. One of them went to my gym so we sort of knew each other. And the other one, named Brad, was a friend of his. As time passed we all started to talk and mingle with each other…. Something interesting happened.
Tanya seemed to be falling head over heels for this guy, Brad. She was hanging on his every word, smiling at almost whatever he said and asking him lots of questions to get to know him better. We could all tell that she liked him. What’s interesting is that he was just a normal guy.
In fact, James was better looking, taller and we all knew that he had a great job. Brad was just a normal-looking guy. Slightly shorter than James. Didn’t seem to be some multi-millionaire celebrity. In fact, he wasn’t even the most charismatic guy in the room. Yet Tanya found him irresistible.
After an or so hour passed, she and Brad excused themselves from the group to get some drinks. And she ended up giving him her number and making out with him. James was absolutely livid. In fact, he became very quiet from the moment we all saw Tanya falling for Brad. But why did she pick Brad over James? Well, here’s the thing.
She’s not alone in her choice. Even me or my other girlfriend would’ve gone with Brad over James that night. In fact, I’d argue that 99% of women would choose Brad over James that night. But what was the difference between Brad and James?
Well, the secret lies in the way they interacted with Tanya. James was desperately trying to make her like him. Every line he said, every move he made was to impress Tanya. At least that’s what it seemed like. He wanted to win her over. And the moment he realized it wasn’t happening, he got frustrated and all pouty. Kind of mean actually.
Brad on the other hand had a different attitude. Brad talked to Tanya, and flirted with her a little, without seeming to care if she reciprocated or not. He didn’t seem to worry about getting any signs of interest or approval from Tanya. He simply expressed himself, had fun, and looked very relaxed and carefree.
Brad wasn’t chasing any specific outcome. James was. Very desperately. And that made the difference. You see, almost all women are extremely turned on by men who aren’t desperate to impress. Or more accurately, men who don’t mind being disliked or rejected by us. They will go after women they like, but they aren’t too concerned if things work out or not. This is what’s known as outcome independence.
And it’s absolutely irresistible to women. In fact, you might’ve even experienced it in your life. Have you ever noticed how easy it is to attract girls you don’t care about vs. the ones you do care about? In one situation, you’re not concerned about getting any specific outcome. In the other situation, you are. And it makes a big difference in how women respond to you.
To us women, this is a bigger female turn on than all of your money, height, good looks, and status combined. It significantly outweighs the emotional effect of anything else you have or do. In fact, you can be a short, balding, below-average-looking guy who can’t hold a job, but if you seem to be outcome-independent, you will turn women on. Why?
Because outcome independence tells a woman that you have options. If you don’t mind being disliked or rejected by us, it means you have other women to choose from. You’re a man in demand. And we want a man who’s liked by other women because it makes us feel special. And chosen.
Secondly, it also makes you look like a strong and capable man. If you’re not bothered by the possibility of being disliked, it shows that you have a lot of mental strength or mental toughness. And that means you will be able to navigate through the hardships of life better than other guys — and be able to protect and provide for a family. This is obviously a more subconscious understanding that women have. But it definitely adds to our attraction.
So at this point, you might ask: “Okay Marni, I get it. Outcome independence turns women on. But how exactly do I develop this attitude?”
Well, for that I’ve 3 tips for you. And you need to apply all 3 of these tips for the best results. These are the same things I tell my private coaching clients, so read carefully.
Tip #1: Nothing Changes If She Dislikes You
Think about it. If you ask a girl out and she says no, or you flirt with her and she doesn’t flirt back, or you crack a joke and she doesn’t laugh… What changes in your life? Your life before that moment and after that moment is the exact same. You end up in the same place.
There’s no real downside to being disliked. Meaning, you cannot lose. If you can internalize this belief, you’ll be so more comfortable talking to women. And you’d be less concerned about getting a specific outcome.
Now, in order to internalize this belief, I’ve two exercises you can try. For the first exercise, you will need a partner. A close friend is ideal. And it doesn’t matter if it’s a guy or a girl. Here’s what you will do.
Your partner will play the role of a girl you find attractive. And you will ask them questions. The twist is that no matter what you ask, your partner has to react negatively.
So if you say: “Hey, I think you’re very cute. What’s your name?”
Your partner might say: “Sorry, you’re not really my type. Why don’t you talk to someone else?”
If you say: “What do you do for work?”
They might reply with: “Well, it’s none of your business.”
And so on and so forth. Don’t repeat a question. And let your partner reply before you ask the next one. Do this for at least a minute anytime you do it. And do it as frequently as you can for a week or two. The more the better.
It will get your brain to accept the fact that nothing bad happens if people dislike you. And that belief will carry over to your conversations with women you like. If you want to step it up a notch, here’s another exercise you can try. I call this one: Play to Lose. For this exercise, you will go up to women and be the most boring version of yourself.
Ask mundane questions like how are you, what do you do, how was your weekend, etc. And tell the most boring stories in the most boring way possible.
For example: [Speak in a boring “monotone”]: So you know, today I had bacon and eggs for breakfast. It was nice. I got up at 6 am. I like to rise early. And made it after brushing my teeth. What did you have for breakfast?
You get the point, right? Bore her to death. Make her dislike you. And only do this to women you find super attractive. By the time you do 9 or 10 of these, your brain will accept that nothing bad happens if women dislike you. That nothing changes at all. And you will be so much more relaxed and carefree in your future interactions.
Tip #2: Self Amusement
One of the best things you can do when talking to women is have fun yourself. Meaning, don’t talk to entertain her. Talk to entertain yourself. Say and do things that make you laugh. Ask questions that you find interesting. Tell stories that you find interesting. Share your opinions and experiences like it’s the most important thing in the world.
You will amazed at how women respond when you do this. When you prioritize your amusement or entertainment over hers, she will know that you’re not chasing an outcome. You don’t mind being disliked. And she will be drawn to that carefree, outcome-independent vibe. Moreover, because you’ll have fun, you actually be less concerned with making her like you.
You will get lost in that fun yourself. Even in your day-to-day life, practice this habit of self-amusement. Whether you’re with friends, family, colleagues, or by yourself, try to push your own buttons. Entertain yourself. Make yourself laugh. This will carry into your interactions with women. And give you amazing results.
Tip #3: Increase Your Options
You’re most likely to get attached to an outcome when you believe that THIS is your only option. That THIS girl is the only girl you can get. The only girl who will love you. This is why it’s important to increase your options. When you have options, you will not seek the approval of any specific girl. You will be okay if things don’t work out with one girl. You will know that there are other women who will date you.
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