Do you ever feel like you don't know what to say or do to make a woman take notice of you? That you're putting her to sleep when you try to strike up a conversation? If you're totally in the dark about why this is happening and how to make it stop, look no further. Here are my top tips for un-boring yourself!
You probably know that one of the biggest mistakes you can make with women is to be boring… And that if your conversation puts her to sleep, she won’t be sleeping with you. So while it’s easy to say “hey, just stop being boring”… What does that actually mean in a practical sense?
How can you present yourself as the interesting guy that women can’t get enough of? Here’s where my advice is going to differ from what most male dating coaches will tell you. Their take on it is usually to learn some shallow techniques to try and FAKE being interesting…
But the problem with that is it’ll only take you so far. You might fool someone into thinking you’re interesting for an hour or so — but what happens after that? Do you want to be out on a date feeling like you have to trick someone into thinking you’re interesting?
I’ve got students who tell me they used to struggle with this… and would resort to things like running to the bathroom every 20 mins to read a bunch of notes on their phone about what to talk about. Not surprisingly, they’d feel sick with nerves and anxiety because they could never truly relax and be themselves. That’s why I teach guys to actually BECOME more interesting, instead of just faking it.
Not only is it much more effective at getting you the women you want… But it also leads to you getting more enjoyment out of life! So, here are 3 things you can easily do that will make you a more interesting and desirable man.
#1 Get out of your comfort zone
If you want women to find you interesting, it helps if you actually lead an interesting life. The more you put yourself out in the world and try different things, the more you’ll have cool stuff to talk about. But many guys fall into a routine of doing the same thing — day in, day out — and getting stuck in their comfort zone a.k.a. the boring zone.
Typically this’ll involve going to work, coming home and playing video games, surfing online or watching sports. The problem with that is it’s the same thing most single guys do. And if you do the same thing as everyone else, then by definition it makes you boring.
So you want to make an effort to try new things. Here are a few examples some of my students have told me they’ve taken up: Adventure travel… mixed martial arts… photography… learning Japanese… improv comedy… painting… wine making… singing… skydiving.
There are limitless possibilities for you to try. And even if some of the things you try don’t end up being for you, at least you’ll be able to talk about them and it WILL make you more interesting.
#2 Stop trying to blend in
A common trait of boring people is they’re afraid of standing out and showing their true personality. This can manifest in different ways, such as dressing in a boring fashion, or being afraid to speak up and voice your opinions. But the more that you express your true self, the more interesting you’ll be…
Because even though it’s a cliche, there really is only one of you in the world, and nobody else can offer that. So don’t be afraid to talk more and let the world (and women) see who you truly are and what makes you unique.
#3 Become interested in other people
It sounds kinda backwards, but research shows the more genuine interest you show in someone, the more they find you interesting. The key word here is ‘genuine’ interest. That’s because as women, we’re good at spotting when a guy is faking interest just because he wants to sleep with us…
Or when someone is acting interested out of social politeness. A dead giveaway is when you ask a question, and we give you a meaningful response, but you ignore that and ask another unrelated question. Instead, you want to follow up and explore what we’ve given you in more depth. Genuinely be interested in discovering who we are and what makes us special, and you’ll immediately be more interesting than the average man.
Alright, there you go. Start trying these 3 things out and you won’t have to worry about women finding you boring. Of course, being boring isn’t the only thing that’ll stop women from dating and sleeping with you.
The last female friend you’ll ever need,
~Marni