Found this quote last night while searching Google for information on How To Gain More Confidence. The content really hit me because it's absolutely true.
“For hundreds of thousands of years of human development, a confident attitude was much easier for men to gain and display than it is now because it was required for survival. There was hardly any choice. Until recently, the demands of physical survival were the primary issue in pair-bonding and confidence-building roles for both sexes directly related to survival were far more apparent. I am not talking about survival in extraordinary circumstances, either. It could be as basic as steadfastness in getting the crops in out of the rain.” – by Dana Peach
What I read from this, is that confidence was much easier to gain the past, because man was constantly faced with possible risk. Risk of being eaten, risk of being killed, risk of not eating, risk of being attacked, risk of disease… The list goes on. Every day, there was a large or small risk that every man had to face to survive.
Today's man, faces no risks or challenges, unless they are self imposed. He can be safe, comfortable, sheltered from harms way, if he chooses to do so. And sadly, many men do.
Simply put: No risks = no growth = no increase in confidence = lack of a strong masculine character THAT WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE
My challenge to you, if you choose to accept it, is to incorporate a small risk into your every day life. Here a few to get you started:
1. Say hi and smile to 5 strangers today
2. Approach any woman you find attractive and say hi and introduce yourself. Then leave if you want to. Risk completion is simply approaching.
3. Ask out the woman you have been putting off asking out
For the next 5 days, take these risks. If you have a hard time remembering to take these risks, put them in your calendar or write them down on a post it and paste it on your computer screen. Whatever you need to do, to remember to take these risks. Because if you don't, you can't grow. And if you can't grow you can't gain more confidence. And if you can't gain more confidence, you can never become a man that women want.
So I challenge you to take these small risks every day. I promise you, if you do, you will become a man women want. More importantly, you will gain more confidence and the character you have been wanting for a long time.
I want to hear the results of your risks. I want to hear if you did them or if you are having trouble doing them. Make sure to come back and write in the comment section below and let me know how it goes.
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