Today, I’ll give you 9 easy tips to give her the best oral sex and make her come effortlessly.
Almost every study about female orgasms has one thing in common. The results consistently show that the majority of women climax primarily through clitoral stimulation and oral sex. And only a small minority climax through penetration.
This means, if you’re going to blow her mind and make her scream in bed, you need to develop your oral chops more than anything else. It’s the most effective skill when it comes to pleasuring a woman. However, most men don’t know what women want during oral.
So they either don’t do a good job or don’t go for it at all. In both cases, their partner is let down. Now I don’t want you to let down your partner.
After reading this, you’ll know proven ways to give women toe-curling orgasms… almost every time you get in bed together. And as a result, you’ll become the man she can’t stop coming back to.
So get ready and avoid all distractions. Here are the 9 oral sex tips to make her orgasm:
Tip #1: Make Sure She’s Comfortable
First things first, if your girl isn’t relaxed before you go down on her, she’s not gonna enjoy it. She needs to feel safe and at ease. Women can get really self-conscious about how long it may take them to orgasm.
So if a guy tells her something like “Hey, just relax. Get comfortable. I’m gonna make you feel really good.”
It can work wonders. Saying something like that will put her mind at rest. It will show her that you care about her pleasure. And you’re in no rush. That’s incredibly sexy. Trust me.
Tip #2: Find a Good Position
Your partner probably knows the position that’s most comfortable for her to be in. But if she’s open to suggestions… put a pillow under her butt to lift her pelvis up… which will give you great leverage—and make her feel amazing. Then when she’s lying on her back, keep her knees wide. The wider she is, the more of an opening you have to work with. That helps with the sensation.
Once she’s in a good position, you need to make sure you’re in a good position too. You don’t want a neck cramp or back pain 3 minutes into the action. Putting a pillow under your knees and kneeling on the bed should make you comfortable. So try that.
Or you can also angle her body in a way that allows you to go down on her from the side of the bed. Maybe she could be on the bed. And you’re sitting on a chair. Or kneeling on the floor if the height of the bed is appropriate. The bottom line is, you need to find a comfortable position for both of you. Because what you’re about to do will take some time. It’s not a sprint, more like a marathon. And on that note…
Tip #3: Pace Yourself
Great oral sex takes time. Women typically take around 20 minutes to orgasm from oral. That means, you must pace yourself. Don’t give it all you got right away. Men often have the tendency to put all their energy up front, when they should just be warming up and building up slowly. As a result, within a few minutes, they’re completely exhausted or have severe neck pain.
If this happens like 8-10 minutes into the action, when things are getting really good for the girl, and you’re forced to stop, it can be very disappointing. So take it easy. Like I said before, it’s not a sprint. It’s more like a marathon. Conserve your energy. Go slow. And gradually build up.
We’ll talk about this more in a while. But first…
Tip #4: Remember The Rest of The Body
Look, it may be called oral sex, but most of the time it’s better when it involves other parts of the body as well. It really enhances the experience. So instance, before you get to the main action, you can try a little breast play. The breasts and nipples are very sensitive, and beginning by lighting stroking, circling, or licking the nipples, or gently cupping the breasts, can really turn your partner on.
Another great tactic is to nibble or lick her inner thighs. As you begin heading down, you can build up the anticipation by nibbling or licking her inner thigh. It’s a really sensitive spot. And can turn women on a lot. Moreover, feel free to explore other areas with your mouth or hands as well, like the neck, stomach, and butt.
In short, stimulate other parts of her body as you get down to the vaginal area. This will create a lot of anticipation which will only improve her chances of reaching climax. By the way, if you wanna know more tips and tricks to be a sexual rock star, I have an amazing playlist of videos you can watch after reading this.
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Alright, back to oral sex. Moving on to the next tip…
Tip #5: Start Slow
When it comes to oral sex, men like high stimulation from the get-go. Women on the other hand like the intensity to build up gradually. So start by teasing her with your tongue. I already told you how nibbling or licking her inner thighs as you head down is a great trick to build up stimulation.
Once you’ve decided to go for the vagina, don’t get too excited or energetic. Start off slow. A gentle lick up and down… Maybe a little bit of a nibble… A passionate kiss… Things like that will drive her crazy. Make her wait a little before you go all in. That teasing, that waiting period… builds massive anticipation & excitement.
Which, as I said before, will make her more likely to climax. Plus, I also told you before… great oral sex takes time. Starting slow and building up gradually is also beneficial for you because it helps you conserve energy so you can do it longer.
Tip #6: Stimulate The Clitoris
Clitoral stimulation is the most crucial part of oral sex. Because a woman’s clitoris is one of the most sensitive parts of her body. Start by lightly grazing the clitoris with your tongue. This will start building a sensation. Increase the speed and pressure gradually.
Some women like a side-to-side tongue motion in the clitoral hood, while other women like an up-and-down rhythm. You’ll know which one she likes more as you do it. Plus it never hurts to ask. You can even try sucking on the clit between strokes if she’s into it.
Not all women like this but it’s worth a test. Apart from the side-to-side or up-and-down motion, you can even try a figure 8 or infinity motion. Meaning: draw a figure 8 or the infinity sign or her clitoris with your tongue. This is a little tricky. And definitely not necessary. But it can feel good.
Once you find something that works for her… Stick with it. Stay consistent in terms of technique and rhythm. If you switch things up too much, it can make it harder for her to settle into the sensations. To really feel the depth of her arousal.
Once you notice her getting super turned on and enjoying the experience, you can amp up the speed and pressure gradually.
Tip #7: Stimulate Her Labia
Most women are more than happy with just clitoral stimulation during oral sex. Some, however… Some women need a little extra something. That “something extra” could be things like kissing or licking her labia. Or in layman's terms, her vaginal lips.
Many forget about the lips. But it’s highly sensitive. And stimulating that area can offer a more all-encompassing sensation. Moreover, to really expose her clitoris, you need to properly spread her labia or vaginal lips apart. Spread it apart and she will feel everything more intensely.
Some people even enjoy the penetration from the tongue when getting head, but it doesn't offer as much stimulation as licking the clit, for example. See how she responds, and if she likes it, alternate between the clit and vagina with your tongue. You can also put a finger or two in her vagina as you lick her clit.
Lightly stroke the G-spot with your fingers in a curling motion or “come hither” while licking her clit. Not every girl will like it, but the ones who do will absolutely love this. Fingering in itself is a powerful skill and has the potential to make women orgasm. I talk more about this in my video about 6 ways to get a woman wet. It’s part of the how to be a sexual rock star playlist.
Tip #8: Pay Attention to What She Likes
One of the most important things you can do when in bed with a woman is read her body—and by that, I mean monitor her breathing, and pay attention to how she’s moving her hips and what sounds she’s making. If you’re doing something she likes, you’ll notice that she’s getting more turned on.
The heavy breathing, moaning, tension in her hips, toes curling, and hands gripping the sheets are all good signs. You need to pay attention and pick up on these signs so you can discover what her body responds to and do more of that. If you’re not listening to how she’s responding, you’ll never learn what works for her. And you’ll just be doing things randomly… hoping it clicks.
Finally, here’s my last tip for you today…
Tip #9: Use Encouragement
Encouragement is key. It's important to make sure your partner knows how much you want to give oral sex. Some people don't enjoy oral because they can't get out of their heads when a little reassurance is all they might need. Making them feel comfortable and sexy in their body will help her relax. And a relaxed woman is one more likely to experience an orgasm.
So tell her how much you love going down on her. Tell her she tastes good. Tell her you love hearing her moan when you’re going down on her. Make some noises yourself when you’re down there, and show her that you’re having a good time. You can also periodically look up at your partner and make eye contact, keeping that connection throughout the experience. And that’s it.
These 9 tips should give you the ability to give your partner the best oral sex possible. And yes, not everyone will orgasm from oral sex, but when you follow these 9 tips you’ll definitely maximize the chances of an orgasm.
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