I want to tell you the 6 things you should know and remember before sleeping with a new woman.
Most men get a lot of performance anxiety about pleasing a new partner… And it completely kills the vibe in the bedroom for both parties.
So in order to make sure you don’t let your nerves get the better of you… There are 6 things you should know and remember… that will not only help you feel more confident in the bedroom… But also guarantee that everyone has a good time.
Here are the 6 things to know before you sleep with a new woman:
Number 1: She Isn’t Expecting Your Best
You might feel the pressure to give women some mind-blowing experience the first time you guys do it. But the reality is that no woman assumes that will be the case.
Women understand that when two people are exploring intimacy together, it takes time to align. We know that both parties will be anxious on some level. We know things may be a little clumsy to start.
In fact, sometimes a bit of awkwardness is a great way to laugh and take the seriousness out of the room. Women know this is a process where you two will uncover what you enjoy. And that you will have to build the right communication patterns together.
So if she likes you, she will be patient because she knows the best is yet to come.
Number 2: She Can’t Sense Your Inexperience
If you haven’t had much sexual experience, you’re probably worried that women will somehow pick up on it. But women aren’t mind-readers and honestly, there isn’t much physical difference between an experienced man vs. an inexperienced one.
The act of putting your thing inside her remains the same… regardless of your experience level. If you go a little slower, a little faster, deeper, shallower, it’s not going to make you stand out as a noob.
It’s not like she’s thinking, “Wow, this guy thrusts like an amateur!”
The only way a woman is likely to know you’re inexperienced is if you tell her or constantly apologize for your performance. If you just do your thing, however it may be, she’ll just think it’s part of the normal discovery process.
Number 3: She Doesn’t Need to Orgasm to Have a Good Time
Adult films and videos really mess up your mind. If you watch enough of it, you might believe that women are supposed to have toe-curling orgasms every time.
Really, many women struggle to orgasm during the sexual act. Or they don’t orgasm every single time. And this is especially true when it’s with a new partner.
Again, we all have a higher level of anxiety, uncertainty, and are focused on figuring each other out — which makes it harder to come.
More importantly, women don’t need to orgasm to have an incredible experience. So much of their pleasure is about the vibe, your closeness, your eye contact, and the feelings you share.
Finally, women have so many more nerve endings down there than you do. Sex feels incredible the whole time and the orgasm is just a nice bonus, unlike with men where most of the pleasure is during those final moments.
Number 4: If You Struggle To Stay Up, Women Usually Think It’s On Them
No guy wants to show up to the bedroom with a wet noodle. But the pressure to stay hard causes anxiety and keeps you soft.
When you’re feeling anxious, it’s almost impossible to feel aroused as well. We can only hold one strong emotion at a time. So let me provide some relief:
If for some reason you don’t stay hard, women usually assume it’s something about them or the circumstances. We’re more concerned if we’re hot enough or if you’re enjoying yourself.
We’re not thinking, “This guy can’t get it up, what’s his problem?”
I’m not saying you should mislead women or put the blame on them. Rather, if you just let your partner know, “Hey no stress, not sure what’s going on, but I’m having a great time with you regardless.” then she can still have fun, too.
Remember, the entire experience for women is about more than just penetration or the climax. Plus, this is a great segue to the next point which is…
Number 5: If You Can’t Use Your Member, You’ve Always Got Your Hands (Or Tongue)
Let’s say you’re struggling to get it up. If you don’t make it a big deal then she won’t see it as one. Remove the pressure to keep trying and instead offer to please her for a while. Vice versa, you can also ask her to touch and play with you, too.
If you’ve never just made out, messed around, laughed, and ran your hands all over each other with a new woman — you should absolutely try it. It’s a ton of fun and helps reinforce that it’s not always about the end goal but the journey.
Funnily enough, when you lose yourself with a woman like this, that freedom paves the way for more arousal. And gets you ready to rock and roll.
Number 6: She Wants You to Enjoy It
I’ll repeat it once again, women aren’t expecting you to knock their socks off from the get go. So many guys imagine women going through a 10-point checklist of their performance.
Like they think the girl moving down the list: “doesn’t thrust deep enough”, “too quiet”, “sweating too much”. Or they imagine a woman actively comparing them to other men in the moment.
The reality is, a girl is just as concerned about providing you with a good experience as you are with her. And if not, that’s not someone you should worry about connecting with further.
Her checklist is more like:
- “Is he turned on?”
- “How do my stretch marks look?”
- “Does this position look flattering?”
- “How do I smell down there?”
- “Do I look chubby like this?”
So instead of focusing on your technique and stamina and stuff, just connect to the moment. Feel the physical sensations, listen to her sexy voice, and explore the positions or ideas that excite you deeply.
These are all things that are easily within your control. Let yourself feel the softness of her skin. Relish in how good it feels when you thrust into her.
Let her soft moans turn you on. Look her in the eyes while you enter her. Don’t hold back — let the sensation of moving in and out of her run through you and make you moan in satisfaction.
If she can see you’re having fun, she’ll feel the same way. And she’ll leave the experience with only positive associations. And that’s win win.
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