Sending sexy texts can be a great way to turn a woman on… and make her heart race. But how do you start “sexting” a girl without seeming creepy or awkward?
Well, that’s what we’ll discuss today. I’m gonna give you my 5 best tips on how to start sexting a woman to drive her wild. And I’ll give you 12 word-for-word dirty text messages… that you can steal right away. So pay attention and keep reading.
Tip #1: The Golden Rule
So when it comes to sexting a woman, there’s a golden rule to keep in mind… Never send dirty texts to a girl UNLESS you’re already in an intimate relationship with her… Or you’ve been flirting with her and she’s actively flirting back.
There has to be an existing sexual relationship… or at least a STRONG flirty vibe between the two of you… For you to dive into sexting.
If there isn’t either of those two things, you texts will be perceived as too forward, creepy or even offensive. So keep that mind.
Tip #2: Timing Is Everything
Recently we did an amazing podcast with Dr. Tara, who’s an actual professor of SEX… and one of the most influential sex experts on the Internet.
In that episode, we talked a lot about sexting. And one of the things she mentioned was the importance of timing.
You don’t wanna send a spicy text to a woman in the morning. No matter how creative and amazing your text is, it won’t be perceived as sexy in the morning. And scientific studies actually confirm this.
Most of your dirty texting is best saved for the night. An occasional naughty text in the afternoon or early evening is fine. And it can build anticipation for later… which is great.
But you best chance of having a sexy conversation with her is at night… When she’s free to text with you.
Tip #3: Ask This Question
Another thing Dr. Tara stressed on in our podcast was starting slow… and testing the waters. Just because you’re ready to sext with a woman… doesn’t mean she is too.
You gotta take baby steps to set the tone. To take the conversation in a more sexual direction.
The simplest way to do that, according to Dr. Tara, is to ask a woman if she likes getting naughty over text.
Like literally asking her something like:
Are you into naughty text messages?
Do spicy text messages turn you on?
With a playful smirk emoji next to it. I’d highly recommend this if it’s a woman you’ve already been intimate with. Because it’s so simple.
And if she says yes, you dive into sexting so easily. But if it’s a girl you’ve just been flirting with, then a question like this can feel a little odd or abrupt… in my opinion.
So in that case, here’s what I recommend…
Tip #4: Use Misinterpretation
Misinterpretation is a great way to steer the conversation in a sexual direction… without being too crass. All you have to do is… As you’re talking to each other… Interpret what she says in a way… that makes it look like she’s trying to seduce you.
She’s the one being sexually suggestive… while you’re just there having an innocent conversation. Doing this brings sexual tension into the interaction while keeping it fun and playful.
For example, if the girl asks if you want to meet for drinks… You can playfully tease her about how she’s obviously trying to get you drunk… so she can take advantage of you.
Here’s another example… If she compliments you or says something positive about you… You can say to her, “Thanks, are you always this forward or am I just irresistible?”.
If she’s telling you how she’s had a busy week, you could tell her, “You’d probably have more free time if you stop fantasizing about me all day.” .
See what’s happening here? All you’re doing is trying to accuse her of having a dirty mind… fantasizing about you… or trying to seduce you. But playfully misjudging the meaning of her texts.
And that playfulness goes a long way. It builds the type of rapport that gives her the freedom to express herself sexually. This means, your flirty conversation can now easily go into a more sexual direction. And from there, sexting can arise naturally.
Tip #5: Write to Spark Her Imagination
Once you’re having a sexually charged conversation with a woman… Or if she has told you she’s into naughty text exchanges… You can proceed to sending her dirty texts. But you gotta get it right.
For instance, consider these two messages:
“I can’t wait to bang your brains out”
“I can't wait to undress you tonight and ravish every inch of your body”.
Which one sounds hotter to a woman? Most guys tend to pick the second one. And they are absolutely correct. The second one is WAY hotter.
However, when it comes to writing spicy messages, they don’t think too much and go with something more like the first one… Which doesn’t hit nearly as hard as the second one.
You see, a woman will always respond better to raunchy texts that build anticipation… that are descriptive… and that provoke her imagination. So you need to write with that in mind.
Here are 12 examples of well-written naughty messages to give you an idea… and that you can steal right away. Pay close attention to the language and take notes.
- I’m getting so turned on thinking about what I want to do to you.
- I want to hear you moan my name as I go down on you tonight.
- I want to kiss every inch of your body until you’re begging me more.
- I wanna taste you so bad.
- Sometimes when I think about you I feel so out of control.
- I can’t handle another minute of not touching you. I want to run my hands through every inch of your naked body.
- Don’t wear anything fancy tonight. Because I don’t think I can help myself from tearing your clothes off of you.
- Just thinking what you’d look like bouncing on top of me. I really like what I see.
- I couldn’t concentrate at work today because all I could think about was last night. I’m going to spank you for that.
- I’d give anything to be inside you right now and hear you moan like nobody’s listening.
- I miss the feeling of your curves pushed into my body.
- I want to grab your hair and push your face into the floor while I take you from behind.
Now, if you noticed carefully, you might’ve picked up on some common themes here. Most of these texts are about what you want to do to her… or refer to something you’ve already done. Most of them use specific language… and not vague stuff like “I want to bang your brains out”.
Most importantly, these texts stress heavily on how strongly you desire her… or how much she turns you on. And there’s nothing hotter to a woman… than feeling strongly desired by a man she’s attracted to.
So with these notes and examples, you should now have a good idea of what kind of texts you should write. To get even more examples, ideas and insights into what to write to turn a woman on… I highly recommend you check out some erotic short stories.
More specifically, erotic short stories written by women. You will see how women fantasize about and describe sexual scenarios.
You’ll see the exact language patterns, the adjectives, the words, how specific we get…and you can model your sexting off that.
Lastly, if you want to really press the acceleration button on this… And become a master at coming up with fun, flirty and sexual things to say to a woman… so you can turn her on with ease… I highly recommend you check out my program, F Formula.
The F Formula tells you exactly what to say to a woman to make her putty in your hands. It gives you it gives you countless word for word examples for playful and flirty things to say to any girl… as well as more sexually charged and naughty lines… So you can simply copy paste it conversations to create intense attraction with women.
If you’ve always struggled to flirt with women and tend to “play it safe” in conversations, then the F Formula is for you… And it will turn you into a natural flirt who can give a woman butterflies — and get her excited and turned on with his words.
Thousands of my students have used the lines and techniques inside the F Formula to date and sleep with gorgeous women. And there’s no reason why you can’t do the same.