I’ll show you 5 ways you’re making yourself look too desperate to a woman… without even knowing.
Look, you probably know that women are turned off by desperation. So chances are, you try to ‘play it cool’ when you’re talking to a new girl…
And hold yourself back from acting too interested or always being available to her. Yet, what you might not realize is that… You still could be making subtle mistakes along the way… that make you look desperate and needy to a woman… without even realizing it.
You will no longer appear desperate to women because I’m going to share 5 subtle mistakes that make you look desperate and needy with women:
Mistake 1: Suggesting More Than One Day At A Time To Meet Up
Let’s say things are going great with a girl you’re texting. She seems interested and now you’re ready to invite her out.
You want to make it as easy for her to say yes. So you think the best course of action is to give her multiple days when you could hang out.
And then you’re surprised when she doesn’t pick any of them. She tells you she’s not sure of her schedule, that she might be busy this week, and that’ll she get back to you.
Why did she say that? You just showed her that you’ve got nothing going on… and you’ll work your schedule around her.
Look, women want a guy who has things going on in his life. She doesn’t want to be your top priority in life… especially when you barely even know her.
So if you’re inviting a girl out, pick a specific day. This shows your time is valuable and she can’t just have you anytime she wants.
If the day you suggest doesn’t work for her, she can always suggest a better day when she’s more available. Plain and simple.
Mistake 2: Leaving Plans Too Open-Ended
I’ve seen so many guys do this… You don’t want to seem too pushy or desperate when making plans… so you go ahead and leave things open-ended.
Rather than making a concrete suggestion, you might say, “Just let me know when you’re free to grab a coffee.” Or “Let me know whenever works for you.”
By doing this, you’re reinforcing the idea that… you have no life outside of her and that you will be available whenever she wants.
Plus, you’re making her take charge of contacting you to plan a meetup. Women do NOT prefer to do that.
We want the guy to confidently lead with what he wants. So make concrete plans.
And if she has any problems, be willing to give her another day. That’s not desperate.
That’s being a man who doesn’t want to waste his time.
Mistake 3: Canceling or Changing Your Plans to Hang Out With Her
Sometimes, a woman’s schedule and yours for the week aren’t going to align. You’re both busy people with work, responsibilities, and social activities. You have to accept that.
Unfortunately, I’ve seen guys tell a girl way too many times, “Well, I had plans to go out with my friends but I’ll just cancel that. No worries.”
Right there you’re showing her how you’d ditch your friends and do anything to be with her.
This can come off as intense and needy to a girl who’s never met you or spent little time with you.
A confident guy who cares deeply about his existing friendships and stands by his word.
He’s willing to risk losing a girl because she’s not the most important thing in his life.
If she doesn’t understand that or isn’t willing to stick around for a couple of days, then he knows it wasn’t worth his time in the first place.
And listen, when a girl is truly interested in you, she’ll be willing to wait to make plans for the next week.
She’s not going to give up an opportunity to see a guy she likes.
Mistake 4: Texting Without Purpose or Messaging Her When You Have Nothing to Say
I actually hate this one as a woman. And I’m sure you hate it as well when you get text messages from women or even people who have no purpose.
A message like “Hi” or “What’s up” or even “How is your day going”.
Yes it’s nice to check in and it’s nice to ask how your day is going these messages are just annoying and they make you look super desperate.
I believe texting is meant to be used for a purpose. Meaning that there is a purpose behind a text like you want to know something or you want ot share something or you want to finalize plans.
It’s not meant for having a ho-hum conversation. And just saying “hi” or “what's up” is a ho-hum conversation.
Save the ho-hum conversation from when you are in a relationship. THEN you can send texts like this to be sweet and check in and say I miss you.
But until you are at that stage avoid it at all costs! It’s boring, annoying, and can come across as needy and desperate.
Mistake 5: Telling Her You’ve Got Nothing Going On
When a girl asks you what your plans are on a certain day or over the weekend… Saying something like “nothing really” or “not much” are the worst responses ever.
Just ask yourself… Why would she want to be with a guy who doesn’t do anything? Anything else is a better response.
You’re always doing something. And even if you don’t have anything planned, or you’re doing something mundane, say something playful like…
“Fighting crime. Saving the world. What about you?”
You don’t have to literally state what you’re physically doing. Now that aside, if you have nothing going on…
If you’re always sitting around binging Netflix, you gotta get off your ass and do stuff.
Go hit the gym, hang out with friends, pursue a hobby, take a class, or work on something important to you.
Then you’ll naturally always have a good answer to “What are you up to?”
Now, wait a second. This is extremely important. Do you see how these 4 mistakes can go unnoticed by a guy?
They all seem like a nice or polite thing to do, but secretly it kills your chances with women.
Well, unfortunately, there are lots of other very specific and common things guys do… without even realizing… that push women away.
They think they’re getting ignored, rejected, or flaked on by women because of their looks, height, age, income level, or status…
But nearly every single time, it’s because of their actions… more than anything.
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That said, thanks for reading this till the end. Hope you found it useful.