Everyone knows women are not attracted to “nice guys”. And today, I want to discuss 3 AWFUL mistakes ALL “nice guys” make that are the biggest attraction killers. And chase women away for good.
These 3 attraction killers are HUGE turn-offs for any girl you will ever meet… And will kill any potential for attraction, even if you’re a great catch for her on paper.
So if you want to give yourself the best chance of success with women… Pay attention and avoid these mistakes.
Here are the 3 awful nice guy mistakes you need to avoid…
Mistake #1: Lacking Certainty
“Nice guys” are always second-guessing themselves and letting their insecurities seep through.
For example… Let’s say they meet a girl and the conversation is going well.
They will still think, “Does she really like me? Should I ask for her number? I don’t know. If I ask for her number and she says no, it will be so embarrassing”
They constantly have doubt and insecurity running in their minds.
On the other hand, a guy who’s good with women will think, “Of course I should ask for her number. We’re having a good conversation. Why would she NOT wanna give me her number?”
Similarly… When the “nice guy” plans a date, he’s always worried. “Did I pick the right place? Is she going to like this place?”
They will even ask a woman, “Hey, is this restaurant okay? If it’s not, I could pick a different place.”
And it just reeks of neediness. What women want from a man is an attitude of certainty. Certainty is a belief in yourself, a belief that your opinion is valid. It’s a belief that when you choose to do something, it’s the right choice.
When you constantly look for reassurance from a woman, it comes across as insecure and needy. When you doubt yourself, it makes her doubt you too. She thinks, “Why is he so insecure? If he himself is not certain that I should like him, maybe I shouldn’t.”
Mistake #2: Lacking Leadership
Because nice guys lack that sense of self-belief and certainty, it results in them lacking leadership. Here’s what I mean. Nice guys almost always shy away from going after what they want.
For example… They might be having a great conversation with a girl and want to see her again, but won’t ask for her number. Also, they might be texting a girl back and forth, but won’t ask her out on a date.
They might be on a date with a woman and things are going well, but they won’t go for a kiss. They lack that ability to lead the interaction to the next level.
Mainly because they constantly seek reassurance from women. They don’t want to make the wrong move and mess things up. What they don’t understand is that women are extremely turned on by leadership. And we want a man to lead.
In fact, when you make a move and it doesn’t go well… Like for example, if you lean in to kiss a girl and she doesn’t go for it… She will still respect you for going after what you want.
In fact, no woman will ever dislike you for going after what you want. Here’s the rule of thumb if you’re looking for one…
As long as you respect her boundaries… You should lead the interaction and go after what you want. Don’t wait for her to reassure you. Women will only like you for it.
Mistake #3: Playing It Safe
Nice guys always try to play it safe with women they like. They stick to having boring, predictable and friendly conversations with women… that don’t create any romantic sparks.
They don’t wanna cross the line or say the wrong thing. Moreover, they don’t wanna come across as the guy who’s just trying to sleep with her. Or the rude and disrespectful guy. Or even the guy who is argumentative.
So they stay in the safe zone for conversation which is boring and dull. Cause nothing really gets set. And they certainly never try to playfully flirt and banter with the girl.
What they don’t understand is that… Even if a woman thinks of you as a catch, if you never have flirty and playful interactions that make her wonder what it'd be like to be “more than friends” or “more than colleagues”… She will automatically place you into the friend zone. And for good.
So while playing it safe in conversation might feel comfortable in the moment… You will almost always regret it later. Which means, you have to bite the bullet, take the leap of faith and get your flirt on.
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